Recently, legal age for sex in India was increased to 18 but is it a sufficient measure to confront changing sexual climate. The best option for uprooting any issue is to track back and understand the root cause of its existence.
The difference between public and private, sex and love has gone for a toss. A little more deeper insight and ... WTF
Why such sexual climate change?
Teenage is one such age where we go through rapid physical development and profound emotional changes causing high level of eagerness in us. In addition to this, the kind of exposure - images, text messages and thanks to media on display, ever increasing urge of having sex isn't very surprising. Attach all this with early puberty and we have a deadly situation on hand.
One thing that is major source to this is lack of fear among teenagers of the consequences of such things or probably lack of awareness. Debatable ! In adolescence, the mind is sky high and care- free / world can go to hell attitude what probably helps us dig into sexuality without concerning much about its consequences.
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Lot has changed in adolescence of 1990 to adolescene of 2010 and it has been a dramatic change. Kids grow up faster than ever and already more into this stuff before you can imagine.
One big solution to this , as always put, has been educating teenagers but i bet, the educated ones are more into it ;) . Doctors have their theories and parents have theirs but none seems to be successful and the only thing winning is teenage attitude. Not an ideal situatuion, love is being abused.
Way forward is very unstable and unpredictable.
The difference between public and private, sex and love has gone for a toss. A little more deeper insight and ... WTF
Why such sexual climate change?
Teenage is one such age where we go through rapid physical development and profound emotional changes causing high level of eagerness in us. In addition to this, the kind of exposure - images, text messages and thanks to media on display, ever increasing urge of having sex isn't very surprising. Attach all this with early puberty and we have a deadly situation on hand.One thing that is major source to this is lack of fear among teenagers of the consequences of such things or probably lack of awareness. Debatable ! In adolescence, the mind is sky high and care- free / world can go to hell attitude what probably helps us dig into sexuality without concerning much about its consequences.
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Lot has changed in adolescence of 1990 to adolescene of 2010 and it has been a dramatic change. Kids grow up faster than ever and already more into this stuff before you can imagine.
One big solution to this , as always put, has been educating teenagers but i bet, the educated ones are more into it ;) . Doctors have their theories and parents have theirs but none seems to be successful and the only thing winning is teenage attitude. Not an ideal situatuion, love is being abused.Way forward is very unstable and unpredictable.
Yes, it is a cause of concern amongst parents, particularly the urban dwellers where individual freedom is beyond debate. To augment that, the visual media has progressed to its zenith along with its sister body, the Internet. With every kid having his/her own laptop, Ipad or in the least a desktop, the data available at one's finger tip is simply drastic. While the visual channels are near to soft porn, the internet is a wealth of all sorts of sleaze and filth that is beyond comprehension. Certainly, it makes present day kids superbly individual. But it comes with a price tag. And that price tag becomes too expensive for comfort. It is not fair to prohibit teenage sex, but there should be a boundary within which it should be enjoyed. It should not exceed basic human limits as is rampant in the west. It should not be the measure of freedom. It is something that should be discreetly enjoyed. There is a dearth of sexual enjoyment in the West because of its lavish availability. Any kid beyond 14 cannot remain a virgin, rather they are taboo if the do remain so. That kind of a cultural outlook is rather stretching human dignity a bit too far a mile. The West has over centuries articulated it, but to ape that to the core in the name of modernity does not sit well in our society and culture which remains to date, orthodox. Sex is very sanctified in our culture and it should be retained as such, with all the pleasure and grandeur it demands. Sex in the west is an obsession, but in other parts of the world it is a fact.
ReplyDeleteTrue - love is certainly being abused. And way forward, as you put, is very unstable and unpredictable. If only aping the west diminished, there perhaps could be an improvement in conditions. Let's hope for the best for our youngsters.
Thanks for a taking up a subject that most of us shy away from, in spite of acknowledging its existence.
Age is just a number...attitude will be more rebellious rather..sex education is must...bt official. Unlike thru internet.
ReplyDeleteRashiji, I'm afraid my views are going to be longer than your blog:
ReplyDeleteLove has not gone for a toss but our values, thinking have gone for a toss
Before independence say in 1930s our population was 30crores. Now it is 120crores.Nothing wrong. Attribute it to simply medical development and eradication of tropical diseases.But the consequence is people are urbanised. With space constraints people have not been getting privacy. Young couples resort to using gardens for showing their affection to their partners. A child can learn sexual advances from parks. In Mumbai where I was brought up in 1950 there were no TVs. But I could see young couples lining the walls of the garden at regular intervals of 6ft, quite oblivious of the couple on either side.
On the last sunday (20/5/2012) 'Upanishad Ganga' dealt with 'Kama'. A mango probably olden days' version of 'Viagara' was given to the ruler to enhance his performance with 'Rani'. She gave it to her valet. The valet gave it to his wife. The wife gave it to senapati and finally lands back in the hands of the ruler. Each one's partner has been cheating. So sex has always been there since the day man and woman were created.
Since our mix up with western culture we lost our way and our values and went after material pursuits blindly emulating the west. We changed everything and enacted laws for marriageable ages. Legislative Laws do not follow natural laws
So sexual digressions and promiscuity take place. We have to accept them as natural consequences. Our Bharatiya traditions until recently allowed, rather insisted on early marriage to avoid such aberrations.
Let us honestly accept the fault of our generation (in the groups of 30 to 60+). Let us sit back and THINK where we went wrong. Emulating the west blindly and ignoring our traditions in the name of development and modernisation is not going to help.Our rich rural culture can not be forgotten.
Unfortunately these are the days of QUICK FIX solutions and fast food joints.Rat race. We have forgotten to take things easy. In fact we have forgotten 'LIVING' and merely exist. We in the bargain forgot the definition of Kama,love etc.
Let us have rethinking. Jai Bharat
Good article ... I translate and read it, thank you
ReplyDeleteI’d have to check with you here. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to comment!
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